I'm on the East Coast for work. I've checked in to my hotel, and just wrapped up a meeting with my team in Asia. As I sit here at 1:00AM, I'm reminded of a different hotel, back in Texas. About a year ago, I tried to "hook up" with a semi-friend that I know from the Internet, and have hung out with once or twice. A buddy of his was in town for the night, and they invited me over to their hotel room. The only rule: "No pants allowed after the door closes." Since I was in my "Don't say 'No'" phase, I accepted, showered, and drove over.
It was a strange experience. His buddy seemed to instinctively want to prove himself to me. We sat around in our underwear and t-shirts, and talked about work (of all things) for an hour. He even showed a prototype (supposedly secret) laptop design to me, opening the case and showing off the components and specs.
After I failed to rise to his "challenges" as alpha geek, the three of us squeezed into his / their king bed, and just laid there, side-by-side for hours, talking, comparing notes on past boyfriends, and (in general) not having sex.
After an hour or two, I started to "gently caress" the guy I knew (he was in the middle), and he responded in kind. Unfortunately none of us had manned up enough to actually make the first move and "do anything."
I left an hour or two later around 4AM with two things: 1. Blue Balls, and 2. The knowledge that I can never, ever have fun in a casual "hotel room hookup," which is useful.
Unfortunately, this hotel room, while nice, reminds me of that night so long ago. :-/
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I'm curious why you felt that the experience you had should be labeled as "mistakes" in this post. Did you do something you regret? It seems like there was some sort of weird, nonsexual, tension in the air that night with the buddy trying to "prove himself" to you. Could it be that there was something going on between your semi-friend and his buddy that they actually sort of preferred to be by themselves? I think you can have fun in hotel room hookups, but it also depends on whether the other people involved are responsive -- really responsive and not just merely caressing. I think the two of them chickened out.
ReplyDelete@bK: Huh, wow. I never saw the comment here. Sorry about that.
ReplyDeleteThat year was the year when I was making a point of "never saying no," and felt like this particular situation was a bad one to enter in to. I've had "friends with benefits" relationships before. I've had a one night stand, even. But this was just odd. They invited me, I went, and then... nothing happened. I suppose I regret two things: going in the first place, and not "manning up." ;-)